It’s Halloween!! And while the intention behind this day is to have FUN, it can bring about a landline of triggers and information overload for us as parents.
We live in the Information Age, and with that, we can feel like we don’t have the confidence to lead with our intuition, instead consulting experts with “what to do when ________”.
When it comes to Halloween, I want to give you some different options on how to execute your own family tradition, with the caveat that there is no “one right way”. As with any price of advice I give, I am not attached to any outcome, and I feel what is most important is that you feel confident and lead from your heart.
Some of my favourite Halloween ideas/traditions:
1.) The Teal Pumpkin Project
An actual map online tells you which neighbourhoods are participating in this initiative. Homes with pumpkins painted teal are giving out small toys instead of candy.
2) The Switch Witch
You can tell your kids if they leave their candy on the porch, the Switch Witch will exchange it for a special toy or money.
3) Candy Day
My friend and parenting expert Sarah Rosensweet gives her kids one “free for all” day, and then buys the rest from them for $10. You can check her website for other ideas including doing Science Experiments with candy!
4) Give total autonomy
Some psychologists are adamant that that which we limit creates a greater draw. Personally I always gave my first born autonomy and I found there was lots left over even by time Christmas arrived! The issue for him though, is a later discovered he has issues with certain ingredients, and his thin tooth enamel makes him prone to decay! So this leads into my next two ideas…
5) Know the consequences
Make your decisions accordingly. If you know your child will react strongly to sugar be processed snacks, and you decide to give them carte blanche anyway, understand there will be a price you both pay. Don’t set up an explosive, reactive child for failure by putting them in triggering situations after a blood sugar crash. Don’t ask, “what got into you?!” When you know precisely what got into his/her body. Make sure they drink extra water and prepare meals full of phytonutrients. Vegetables are great to have out and will “brush” their teeth naturally.
6) Skip the trick or treating
My friend Julie doesn’t get the logic behind warning kids all year about not accepting food/candy from strangers, and then one day of the year actually going to strangers and asking for candy. She appreciates her kids desire for the celebration aspect of it, so she’s created her own twist. On Halloween they get fancy hors d’oevres that they don’t normally get, and get a fun movie. They spend the night as a family, playing games, snuggling with movies and enjoying special treats.
Choose what works for you, and don’t be afraid to change your mind or be flexible. Some kids are highly sensitive to all the scary decor out there, and they’d love a family night in. Other kids want to knock on doors and meet their neighbours and find the whole experience quite special.
Whatever tradition you choose, have FUN, don’t stress, and go easy on yourself and your kids. Breathe deep!! In 10 years from now, this will be a distant memory :relaxed: